2. Looking for Hints and Clues
Do not make promises to stay realistic. No matter how sober your mind is, you will still be trying to judge your current relationship, especially if you are still at its early stage. Being too prejudiced and judgmental is not ok. You might be paying attention to how clean he looks and whether he talks nicely about his family. You might not like his being too close to his mother and so on. Looking for hints and clues helps us determine how compatible the person we are dating is.