Balance and harmony is an essential part of our lives. We need balance in all spheres and once it is ruined we feel discomfort. This can be applied to relationships as well. What are the ways to stay happy and satisfied with the significant one?
It is obviously your skill to compromise with each other. Compromise might be sometimes unhealthy or, in other words, unhealthy. This happens when only one of the partners is ready to make the other one happy. It is great if you are patient and generous and willing to let your beloved to do whatever they want. However, sooner or later you might need and want more understanding from them and if you do nor receive what you are asking for, then conflict will be inevitable. Dissatisfaction of one of the partners causes anger, resentment and other negative emotions. Fortunately, there are a few rules for you to follow to make compromise fair, healthy and acceptable for both of you.
1. Compromise and mutual consent requires effort from both sides
It is far more fair to ask the other one to change when you are also ready to make changes in order to demonstrate that both of you will participate in the deal. Keep your promise no matter how hard it might be.
2. Positive compromise is more effective
Even if you feel that there is nothing that should be changed about your habits and the fault is all of your partner’s, try and “bargain” in a smart way. Be wise and remember your childhood and what your mother did when she wanted you to swallow a bitter pill – of course she sweetened it! It will be easier for your partner to accept your offer if you bring something to the table and do something in exchange. For example, if you want your partner to spend some time with your friends although you know he/she dislikes them, make a promise to get rid of one of your bad habits that makes your partner mad. In this situation both will win and none will feel being taken advantage of.