You cannot make cheaters shut up. However, you can always avoid them. Listen to your heart – it never lies. Listen to a cheater and if you hear any of the phrases given below, be careful.
Do not let others make a fool of you. People who say the following things should not enter your life.
1. “I didn’t mean to cause you pain or make you suffer.”
Do you really believe in ‘unintentional’ hurting? We don’t. If you know your partner has opened a profile on a dating site, it’s a red flag. It’s not ok if your boyfriend secretly texting other girls yet keeps lying about it. Some even get addicted to frequent hookups. Are those actions unintentional? Come on.
“I didn’t intend to make you suffer” in most cases sounds fake. You are smart enough to tell when someone is lying. If you doubt your partner, double check him and what he says and you will see that he is not that innocent. Once a cheater always a cheater. Never ever put up with lies. You deserve respect.
How do you respond? “Your intention is not what I care about. You should have predicted my reaction. If you keep a secret, it’s only because you know it will do me harm. How is it unintentional then? As long as you’re in a relationship with me, you’re supposed to keep me from harm. Shame you failed.”
2. “You aren’t meeting my needs.”
Cheaters like another phrase similar to the one above. “I haven’t been happy for so long.” What makes them say it? The answer is simple: their own infidelity. They are simply trying to blame everything on you. Yes, as a rule, they’re afraid of responsibilities. They hate being blamed. Instead of talking about their stupid behavior and betrayal they will always talk crap about how bad you are at keeping the house tidy!
Situations may vary from couple to couple. The main idea is still the same anyways. They might be blaming you for being a bad cook or lover. Those are all lies. Never own his faults. Do not keep listing and naming the thing that did make him happy in the past – it will all be in vain. They do not want to hear that.
How do you respond? Admit the fact that you are not responsible for your partner’s cheating. “I’ve never cheated on you although were not meeting my needs. Quit trying to justify your lame excuse.”
